Redundancy knocks self confidence. I hear clients explaining they’ve applied for lots of jobs and when they don’t hear back, in the absence of feedback they assume it’s because they weren’t good enough.
It’s common for us to make up our own stories in the absence of other information, and over time these stories can become our truth.
There can be many reasons why you don’t hear back from prospective employers (none of which are acceptable):
🙁 they’re overwhelmed with applications
🙁 they don’t have rigorous processes in place to deal with feedback
🙁 it’s not their policy to give feedback
🙁 they don’t see feedback as important
NONE of these reasons are a reflection on your ability.
Here are some alternatives to help create another story:
🌈 You can choose how you respond to the absence of feedback – what story do you want to create?
🌈 If these employers don’t value feedback, the chances are they won’t value you either
🌈 The job may not have been the right fit for you
🌈 You are free to give your time and energy to explore other possibilities and find your perfect role
Looking for a job can be tough – I invite you to think about your stories and which of them are true.
In the consultation meeting for my second redundancy I heard the words ‘Your role is at risk of redundancy’ and immediately substituted this with ‘You are at risk of redundancy’.
I knew the script, I knew that it’s roles and not individuals who are made redundant and yet when I was on the other side of the table my reaction was the same as many other people in my situation, I took it personally.
Like most people I didn’t hear much after being told my role was at risk, the rest was just a blur.
Our jobs are more than just an income, they are part of our identity and contribute to our self worth which is why a redundancy feels personal and why confidence is often impacted by losing a job as it feels like we’ve lost a piece of ourselves.
I encourage my clients to remember the person with all the skills, knowledge and experience hasn’t changed as a result of the redundancy, you still have all that to offer and are still the same person you were before the announcement.
It’s not always easy to distance yourself from your redundancy, however the more you remind yourself it was your role and not you that was made redundant is one of the first steps in building confidence to finding the next role.